WARNING, WARNING, WARNING….
Laurel has a “girl crazy” son. Now I was a bit boy crazy in my day, and yes I did start early in my obsession of boy craziness (Ok Mom quit nodding your head, just stop this is MY story) =) I liked boys beginning in 3rd grade, well if I am honest it began in first grade when I wanted to “spend the night” at my “boy” “friends” house. And for the life of me I could not understand why my mean Mom would not let me. I mean the gull (heheh).
Anyways, this is not about me. And the reason I tell you this, is so you can see the apple does not fall far from the tree.
Youngest son wanted to go to the end of the year skating party…Ok he begged his tired, weary Mom and beat her down until she said yes. So off we went, the other two older boys were “too cool for school” to be seen at the skating rink. So it was just me and youngest.
All was going well. About half way through my youngest son introduced a friend to me, “Mom her name is Jasmine.” I said, “Jasmine it is very nice to meet you, and what a beautiful name you have.” And me thinking what a sweet girl. Then they skate off to do more laps around the rink. I was currently talking to a girlfriend, when I look up and spy my Youngest son (AGE 8 PEOPLE) HOLDING HANDS with said “friend.” I did what any other Mother would do, I stopped talking walked up to the edge of the rink and said “hi guys.” They were both laughing and giggling, then they both fell (did not hurt themselves, they found it was difficult to skate and hold hands at the same time).
Suddenly the what a sweet girl, turned into I officially do not like any girl with the name Jasmine who holds hands with my 8 year old. Ok seriously I was not ugly, but my GUARD WAS UP. Thank goodness it was time to leave and I told my son to tell “his FRIEND” goodbye (I said sweetly).
As we are driving out of the staking parking lot, my son says “Mom I love Jasmine.” I took a deep breath and said, “Son you do NOT LOVE HER, you may like her but you do not LOVE her, love is a strong word, you don’t say you love someone until you think this might be one you want to marry when you are like 30 YEARS OLD!” (OK so I hammered the point maybe a little too much, but seriously I need to get into this love struck boy’s brain).
Then he asked, “Mom how do I tell her I LIKE HER A LOT” (somehow the conversation is not going as planned). I did show some control and said, “well honey it is the end of the school year (oh thank you Jesus), maybe you can give her a little card that says Have A Good Summer, YOUR FRIEND _____”.
Just the ride home from the skating rink aged me a few years, added a few more gray hairs, and has me checking the locks and caller ID more then once. GIRLS HE IS ONLY 8 YEARS OLD AND HE IS MY BABY, if you think you are getting by me anytime soon you will have another thing coming. I am a really sweet nice lady, unless you start stalking one of my sons. (oh I don’t want to hear HE was holding her hand and it takes two to tangle, people did I not mention THIS IS MY BABY!!)
Now if this was my 13 year old, the reaction would be the same. STAY AWAY UNTIL THEY ARE 30. Ok time to go take my tongue out of my cheek. Have a great Friday.
This public service announcement has been paid for by Mother’s Who Have Sons. And I am Laurel Wreath and I APPROVE THIS MESSAGE.
In the third grade my husband stood at the top of the slide and made all the girls kiss him before they went down.
Thankfully my kids are taking after me and are not interested in that yet. I did not date anyone longer than a week until my husband. I just did not see the point in wasting my time if he was not “the one.”
aww:(
I’m so not looking forward to that day either;)
Lizzie
We scooped in early last year to the first dance of the season (kids were still in public school). As we sat in the bleachers, in the dark, the 6th-8th graders were “slow dancing” on the gym floor. You know, arms stiff on each others shoulders, standing 3 feet apart, swaying left-right-left-right.
John leans over and says “Jonathan is dancing WITH A GIRL. Over there!”
Total denial me says- No WAY is my baby boy dancing with a girl.
Boy- was I wrong. My baby boy, 6th grade, was dancing with his secret crush.
Fortunetaly, we never let on when the lights came up and the dance ended.
Did I mention they homeschool again now … hehe
Oh, I hear you, girl! I posted recently about girls calling my 12-year-old son.
Please bookmark me at my new address:
http://myhomesweethomeonline.net
ROFL. I feel for you, I am dealing with my 6 year old boy crazy daughter who told me the other day she was going to “dump” her boyfriend. (that I didn’t even know she had!) and his offense? He doesn’t like cheetos…
Awwww, your baby has a crush!!!
So cute.
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(Yes I did just say that. No, please don’t pummel me. *teehee*)
Laurel,this is the most unkind thing I have memory of you posting. I am the mother of 3 grown sons and I wanted to protect them from being hurt by people and from being pressured into things they weren’t ready to handle. However, it was also important to me for them to have close friendships with both girls and boys because I wanted them to be comfortable with females as equals not objects for them to boss around like their grandfathers’ were taught was “normal.” So I had to crank down the gain on my radar and kick my “emergency-mode” offline. I also had to get comfortable with figuring out what was acceptable friendship behavior and what crossed the line and have private discussions – not lectures – about these things. But the most important thing that another very wise Christian parent of 3 boys admonished me to take account of was the aura of shame I tended to impose irrationally. And shame is the most damaging element that can interfere in the parent-child relationship. Once a child believes he or she is the source of a parent’s shame he or she is no longer receptive to input because they connect it to being damaged and unredeemable. So I hope you will seek out a wise counselor for a sanity check on your reactions; and what what your son and his friend really mean.
I can understand your feelings. I have two young boys. My soon to be eight year old often plays with a few little girls (slightly older) and he has come home telling me they are talking about love, boyfriends and so on ~ things we are not ready for them to be exposed to. I had the same discussion with him about saving the “love” word for someone much later in life (30′s would be my ideal too!) and meant for his future spouse. I don’t think it is too early to teach them what God’s plan is for relationships. I just think children should be children. I think I have some thoughts about this for a future post….hmmm… I am enjoying your blog very much!
The no dating rule until 30 sounds wonderful to me. As a mom of two girls, I endorse your announcement and heartily agree. :0) If it was my daughter at the rink I think my heart would skip a beat or two and then some.
Hey Laurel,
Know what you mean, my 4 year old wanted to buy present for his “friend” this valentines day, when we were shopping he wanted to buy a bottle of wine for her Daddy too… trying to impress him already! Aaaaaaah!! Its tough isn’t it. Anyway, this made me laugh (I think other people need to chill a bit!?!) thanks for dropping by my site, means a lot!
Del
http://www.peteanddel.blogspot.com/
girlfriend, I have a son too and am VERY protective! No one will ever be good enough for my baby!
BUT let me say this in all seriousness, it’s a WONDERFUL thing that your son feels comfortable enough to talk with you about these kinds of things. My son and I are very close and I love that he is so open with me. It makes things alot easier once they’re 16 like mine!
Laurel, this cracked me up…I laughed out loud the whole way through. Been there, done that, from a mother of girls perspective! Thanks for sharing.
Have a blessed weekend!!!!
I can only imagine the look on your face when you saw your sweet son holding hands with a girl.
This story will be fun to share with him when he is much older.
Oh, Laurel, I FEEL your pain, girl!
My oldest son (now 27) started getting phone calls from very forward young girls. I nearly flipped. I was also astonished at their forcefulness and rudeness. (Where WERE their parents??)
13 years later it’s round 2 with our middle son. Yes, of course he’s much older, but I don’t find things a whole lot better.
So many young ladies seem to have no boundaries. It’s sad, really.
And, like you, I think “Not with my son, chicky-poo.”
Let me just say, I PRAY and PRAY and PRAY.
I have to say that was hysterical I think i was boy crazy in kindergarten thats the first time I got engaged! haha!
my sons are 19 and 16 and so far I have not liked anybody… maybe I need therapy!
Laurel, this was too funny. I think one commenter may have missed the “tongue in cheek” part. But anyway, I do know what you mean. We’ve always jokingly said to our girls, no dating until 30. Thirty must be the magical age in the mommy mind.
oops, that should have said “girls and boy”. Can’t believe I left him out after this post! :vD
You are such a hoot! Thanks for a happy laugh this afternoon and encouragement that there are mothers of sons out there just as crazy as mothers of 8 year old daughters. 30 is soon enough, don’t you think, to even begin thinking about holding hands!! Hee, hee!
Love ya,
Elisa
lock that boy up and throw away the key! I would do the same thing-kids these days grow up way too fast. My 14 year old cousin went on her first date last weekend. I asked her mom “what were you thinking” she is too mature for her age already and you are letting her go on a date?!!??!? oh girl, don’t get me started.
I feel for you! Hang in there!
At 3 my son asked me to fix up the guest room so his girlfriend could move in with us. I almost fainted. Then I recovered by saying no girlfriend of his would EVER move in with us. EVER. As the mom of 2 boys I’ll endorse your message too.
What is so wrong with a boy liking a girl? Its not like its true love, he and she are eight.
-Rachel
sounds about right to me. I’ve got a boy and 2 dd’s so far… as my hubby says we’re teaching them karate til they can do some vicious moves… yikers.
I hear ya though!
Thanks for doing WFW as well!